Did you ever find yourself under so much stress that you felt like you were just going to implode? That's how I feel right now. This whole law school thing was supposed to be a great, happy, exciting thing. Well, it's not. It's now May 13th and I still do not know where I will be living and attending law school in less than 3 months from now.
Unfortunately, yesterday I found out for sure that I will be leaving Middle TN which has become my home. I didn't get into Vanderbilt law. I moved here in September 1998 and I thought I would hate it. I was just moving here basically to avoid having to look for another job b/c it was - relocate from NJ and work for the newly acquired subsidiary or be unemployed in NJ because the company was moving to Indiana and there was no job for you in Indiana (thank god!).
I had only started at that job 9 months before finding out I was facing unemployment. I did some research and found that moving to Nashville wouldn't be such a bad thing. Rent was cheap as all hell, my car insurance was cut in half, the apartments were developments with on site gyms, and they were huge, my office was a 6 min drive from my apt. I was home at 5:06pm from work. I had never been home that early from anything in my life - even high school. I had gone from commuting over an hour each way to 12 min. total each day. I actually went home for lunch some times. I hadn't done that since I was in elementary school b/c the school was right across the street.
I learned to like Nashville and the south. No traffic, it was quiet...laid back. In the almost 7 years that I have been here I haven't just acclimated, I've assimilated. I live right next to a dairy farm, I'll eat okra, turnip greens and even grits. I love the fact that it takes me less than 25 min. to get to Nashville b/c the speed limit on the interstates here is 70 and everyone really does 80-85. Rush hour is really just an hour. Winter, t hat is winter that I'm used to from NYC really is only about a month long then it's mid 40s for a bit and then it's spring like weather. By early May it's pushing 90.
Of course I miss my family and my friends from home but Nashville/Murfreesboro has become my home and I'll mad as all hell that I have to leave. The circumstances of my leaving seem so strange to me - to not have a destination yet. What disturbs me the most is my options so far aren't any that I like. It's either go to Michigan, or Western Massachusetts. I could go to California. I got into a few schools there but those were "Hail Mary" applications b/c I was so scared I wouldn't get into any law schools that I applied to just about everywhere. California from my experience is a nice place to visit but I wouldn't want to live there.
Since California is out of the picture unless I get into one of my NYC metro area options it's either Michigan or Western Massachusetts. Western Massachusetts has been a front runner b/c I was offered a huge merit scholarship (I know, you don't believe me but it's true) so $48,000 less in student loans would be sweet. It's like winning money. However, I have researched the area up and down. It doesn't look very hospitable to me - I can't find an apt. that will take River within an hours drive in every direction from the school. I would have to live in Conneticut and commute to the law school in Massachusetts. According to mapquest, I'd have at least a 45 min. commute each way. Not exactly what I wanted to be doing in law school. Plus, living so far away would make socialization difficult and socialization would be important since I don't know a damn person there.
So, is my sanity worth another $48,000 in loans? So far, it seems so. I wasn't even going to put a deposit down on Michigan but luckily I came to my senses and sent it in today just in time. Michigan offers a plethora of apt. complexes similar to what I am living in now, within 10 min. of the school, cheaper than any rents in CT. I do not know if I have received any money from Michigan but I will find out tomorrow b/c they are idiots and haven't told me anything yet. If I can some how finagle some cash out of Michigan that'd be sweet.
Everything would change if I got into one of the NYC metro area law schools but I'm not holding my breath at this rate b/c it is so late in the game and from my understanding if you hear back so late from a law school it's either a rejection or a wait list.
For now, I'm researching Michigan. I'm not thrilled about what I've learned about the weather there. According to this Lansing, MI website the maximum temperature there all year round is 82 degrees in July. I'm not talking avg. the max! The highest average tempertures are seen in July also, a whopping 70 degrees. Damn, I've gotten totally accustomed to the warm weather here. Cold ass weather like that is even worse than back in NYC. January's average temperature is 21 degrees there. I dunno, maybe I can spend part of my winter break with friends in Nashville so I can defrost. I'd like to say instead that maybe I could vacation somewhere warm during winter break but I'd need to have money for that.
Best case scenario now is that I either get into Seton Hall or Rutgers Newark calls. Everything else at this point is just a nightmare.